More on my Approach

Tuning In: Body, Feelings, and How We Connect

I believe that to truly understand ourselves, we need to look at what is stored in our body and our relationship histories. Early relationships have a huge impact on how safe, connected, and valued we feel as adults. Those experiences can really stick with us, sometimes in ways we don't even realize, creating a kind of “blueprint”, influencing how we react to stress or connect with others.

As a somatic and attachment-focused therapist I help gently explore this connection. We'll pay attention to what your body is telling you and how your past relational experiences impact your sense of belonging, safety, self-worth, and moments of reactivity. Together, we can build a deeper understanding and create pathways towards feeling more secure, connected, and resilient in your daily life and relationships.

It’s never too late to create feelings of safety and stability. And present experiences of safety, security, and comfort really matter.

At the heart of my approach is establishing a comfortable, trusting connection. The relationship we build in therapy is a healing center for this work. This safe connection allows us to gently untangle old patterns, slowly release what your body might be holding onto, and expand new unfamiliar healing experiences, as things start to change.

Our work together also focuses on understanding your unique nervous system (finding both the ways you respond to stress and the ways you calm back down) to help cultivate more secure and fulfilling connections and feel more engaged in everyday life. We will help build awareness of feelings, needs, and personal boundaries, as each one is a crucial aspect in recovering from trauma, stress, and overwhelming experiences.

 A Little Bit About My Story.

Since I was a kid, I was on the lookout for something to fill the emptiness I felt inside. I felt lonely and sensitive, and that I didn’t quite fit in anywhere. I wanted to understand myself better, but even more, I wanted to feel less alone.

The start of something new

At the age of 26, I woke up and realized that everything I was doing in my life was just to fit in with the world around me. My job in advertising in NYC, working extreme hours in a broken system, on the path to getting engaged, and pretending to be able to keep up with it all, wasn’t any of what I truly wanted, and was making me sick. And the thing was, I actually had no idea what I wanted.

Acknowledging that you are unhappy with your life is really painful, and making a change can feel really really scary. In a lot of ways it’s easier to stay feeling small and quiet in your pain. It takes a lot of courage to start seeking something different.

Something inside me whispered (then started shouting) that I needed out. And I finally listened. I dropped it all. And at first, I felt more alone and unsteady than ever before. I slowly began searching for my truth (baby steps).

Some expansion

I immersed myself in the lessons of great teachers, practiced yoga and meditation, and delved into spirituality. But despite my efforts, I still felt a deep sense of restlessness. I continued searching, looking for relief and safety.. and I was lost in the complexity of searching for something you do not yet understand.

Eventually, a changed orientation

The idea finally came to me while working on a farm in Argentina. I was exhausted. I realized, I was seeking {basically begging} for something external to ‘fix me’, but the real answer had to come from within.

From there, through my healing journey, with the beautiful support of safe others, I was able to shift my mindset. I went from searching; to developing a nurturing and self-appreciative connection within. Restoring my relationship with self led to a radical shift in my relationship with the world. I became more curious, honest, relaxed and forgiving. This allowed me to approach life with greater intention, flexibility and vitality.

How this influences my work

I’m deeply committed to growing my connection on the inside, a journey that truly is lifelong, and I’m okay with that. I’m a believer that healing really is about returning to your true self… which can be a fascinating adventure when you are accompanied by loving support and guidance (I couldn’t have gotten here alone). And along the way, I discovered that one of my greatest gifts is empowering others to recover their connection with self and reclaim their life.